Don't Comment On Other People's Weight!

thebil
Mar 7
2 min read

Updated: 3 days ago

I have a lot of pet peeves, but I was reminded of a big one yesterday.

I find it so offensive when people greet you with a comment about your “weight”.

Examples below;

“You look like you’ve lost weight”.

“You look different, have you slimmed down?”

“Wow, you’ve dropped some pounds haven’t you?”

“You can see your waist!”

And this is the WORST...

“You look so good now”.

Whenever I am greeted with one of these or something similar I immediately think to myself, oh did I look fat before? Was I an ugly beast before? Did I look like jabba the huts daughter last time you saw me?!?

What the F?! Since when did it become acceptable or kind to greet someone, a person who may or may not have suffered with body issues or an eating disorder once in their lives with words like these?

The only time it doesn’t bother me is when it’s from my best friend or someone who I have brought up the discussion of trying to lose weight with. But when it’s from a cousin twice removed, it is not ok. When I was teaching fitness I was hit by a car and unable to walk, so I gained back some of my weight. Then when I was finally able to run again “I dropped a few pounds”. There was one woman who would occasionally show up to my classes who would immediately make a bee line for me to comment on how good I looked “now”. It wasn’t a throw a way comment she made a big deal of repeating it over and over again. This woman was so New York in the 90’s thin that she had previously complained of neck ache because her tiny and frail body couldn’t support her giant head. So I’m guessing being so skinny to the point that your body weight can’t even hold your own head was very important to her. But just because it’s a priority for her, doesn’t mean it’s a priority for the rest of us.

Rant over, time for the advice.

Here’s how you can greet someone who’s appearance has changed since you last saw them, if you truly feel the need to comment on it at all.

“You look great”.

“You look beautiful as always”.

“You look fit and strong, gorgeous as always”.

So there you have it.

Share this post in the help we can prevent fat shaming. And remember most people who comment in a harmful way is on them. It’s something that is going on in their lives. Nothing to do with you. You are beautiful.

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Live with Love,

The Bimbo in Limbo xxxx